Synchronicity plays a large role in my life. I was thinking about this blog post when I woke up this morning and decided that it was going to be about the myth that we have all bought into about the need to be 'on the job' 24/7 and how we will all come to regret this in our later years.
Then, before I get a chance to start, my inbox pops up with the latest news from BNET with two articles on exactly this topic. Synchronicity at work? I like to think so.
The first article talks about how, like machines, the human brain needs time off work to rejuvinate. If we spend more than 35 hours a week working we will just start making mistakes that we then have to spend more time fixing. It also demonishes us for multitasking - no, it says, you cannot do five things at the one time, at least not to any reasonable level. We should go for a walk instead, which promotes our cognitive abilities. Ever hear or the term 'work smarter, not harder'? Well now there is evidence.
The next article I read encourages us to send us a message from our 100 year-old selves on our deathbeds, admonishing us at whatever age we are now for our lack of gratitude. I use this tool in career coaching, but with limited success - I say limited, because people find it revelatory at the time of doing it, but rarely change their patterns of behaviour.
Maybe we are meant to be miserable workaholics who are so wracked with guilt that we cannot begin to imagine just sitting back and enjoying the fruits of our labours. I despair when I work with a corporate slave who wants to change her life but then looks me in the eye and tells me point blank that there is NO WAY she can leave the office at 7pm - she would feel so bad leaving others behind to keep working while she went off to have a nice meal and a bath, maybe even watch a bit of telly, and then there would be the cold shoulder treatment for the next two days from her boss that would make life positively unbearable.
Those that know me will say this is definitely a case of pot and kettle. I have been known to send emails at midnight and/or at 5am. I have been called the multitasking queen, able to focus on three projects simultaneously. Perhaps this is all a ruse, and I am fooling myself and everyone. Perhaps I am really superwoman (... really, I am kidding). But perhaps I suffer less from overload, burnout, ill health and apathy because I am doing what I love just about all the time. Perhaps I am happy to work long hours because I feel I am doing some good for the world, or am at least trying to. Perhaps I am 'in the flow', living each day with meaning, passion and purpose. Perhaps there is some sense that what I am doing is a little bit important and that I can make a difference.
So the message for this month, my lovelies, is do a lot of what you love doing and try to avoid the things you really hate most of the time. It really is as simple as that. The trick is in recognising the difference, which takes self-examination, reflection, planning and persistence, which in turn might mean downing tools for a while to give yourself the time and space to do that. There you have it - the real secret to career success!
Yes Julie I agree. Enjoyed reading your article. It really is a matter of people doing more of what they love and are passionate about rather than just doing what they think they should because of what other people may think of them. Too many of the clients I see are in this merry go round and allow guilt, fear and the need for approval from others to rule their lives and thus rob themselves of real choice and options. It is amazing when clients give themselves permission to focus on what they really find satisfying both within and outside of their work, that they start making life affirming decisions and begin to truly live their lives to the full.
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